How to get off auto-pilot and start living your dream life

Whilst many of us have good intentions when it comes to pursuing our passions, the reality is that transitions to healthier ways of living, changing careers, finding a better relationship, etc.; are challenging. But, remember this is your life! Getting off auto-pilot and fully experiencing the world around us, helps us to stay focused when confronted with the challenges of every-day life.

Activities such as exercise, yoga and meditation all go a way to helping, but here’s an exercise to try that will help keep you committed to the process of self-discovery and being open to exploring your passions in a healthy and honest way.

Find a calm environment, free from distractions and then work through the following exercises:

Acknowledge your obstacles

What do you need to confront, but have been avoiding? For example, it could be mending a romantic relationship, starting an exercise programme, asking for a promotion, or starting the business you’ve been dreaming about.

Give fear a shape

Now ask yourself what you’re most afraid of. What’s contributing to your fear, what triggers it, and what gives it power over you? Consider how fear has been getting in the way of your happiness and success.

What does your dream life look like?

If it were not for other people’s judgements or expectations, or your own limiting beliefs, what would you be doing with your life right now? Make a list of as many things you can think of, big and small, that you would do if no-one (including yourself) was holding you back, and you felt no fear.

Create small goals

Once you are fully aware of what you want for yourself, you will see which areas of your life aren’t in alignment with your dreams. Now you can create a few, small, achievable goals to work on this week, to take small steps towards what you want. Next week create some more and keep moving forward. Remember, Rome wasn’t built in a day, but they laid bricks every hour!


Every time you successfully overcome a meaningful obstacle, take time to share your accomplishment with others. This could be as simple as posting your achievement to your social media account of choice or having a small party or outing with loved ones. Involving the people you care about will give you an extra layer of support and maybe they’ll inspire you to keep moving towards living your truth.

Once you begin to see fear as an opportunity rather than a hindrance, you’ll create fewer limitations for yourself, and the Universe (and your loved ones) will guide and support you along the way!

You might also like to try my A Life in Balance exercise. Sign up below and you’ll get automatic access. It will help you to see, at-a-glance, which areas of your life are thriving and where you may have gone out of balance.